Sometimes we are dissappointed in our spouses because they lack the energy and excitement that we have. Maybe they are quiet and calm while we just want to jump up and down. Trying to change the other to be more like you wont work because God put her with you to balance you. As long as you are too energetic, she will be the opposite to bring balance. But if you strongly desire for her to be more enthusiastic, then start to be less excited and you will see the balance follow. Out of the blue she will begin to naturally increase in the area that you are decreasing. ISNTGODCOOL??