I believe the reason is that in some cases the children remind us of our past mistakes. How we failed to teach them the right way and now they are such a problem to us. We didn’t sow enough love into them and now they rebel against us. So it is hard to be the loving person with them that we are now. We see where we went wrong and don’t know how to fix it so we remain frustrated in that area. We have not forgiven ourselves for these mistakes so we are unable to move forward and confidently bring this new way of life and love into our home.